The A-Z blogfest is hosted by Arlee Bird at Tossing It Out. I'm taking a break from my theme of promoting book bloggers to vent today. If you're not into venting skip this post. If you're into venting read on.
Wow. Just wow.
I'M SO ANNOYED WITH THE PARENTS IN YA I THINK I'M GOING TO SCREAM!!!! I'm serious. If I read one more YA novel where the MC apologizes to his/her parents for stating the obvious/telling the truth I will scream. I'll consider stepping out to the patio to do it so it's not too annoying for Emil & the ELF, but I will scream! Look, if the truth hurts, the only person who can change it is you. If your eighteen year old daughter says you don't love her because you hired a circus complete with wait staff for your new wife's six year old's birthday but sent her a pair of jeans that you couldn't even be bothered to pick out under the guise "New wife & I are a team! Rah-Rah Rah," she's right. And when new wife says, "You need to get out," and you support this insanity it affirms the message. Daughter does not owe you an apology. Daughter stated the truth. It might be an ugly truth. It's the truth. Be a parent. Deal with it. Likewise, when your eighteen year old daughter says in a therapy session your new wife is a self-centered homewrecker since she was hired to babysit for her mentally ill mother and married her husband instead--it's also true. She does not owe new wife an apology. If new wife doesn't want to be told she had an affair with a married man, new wife should not have had an affair with a married man.
The thing that annoys me most is that this didn't happen in the same book. It seems to be a theme of the current wave of YA that you aren't supposed to tell your parents they're hurting you. Here's the thing: when you decide to bring a life into the world, your decisions often irrevocably affect someone else's life. That effect can only be positive if you're making good decisions. Not just good for you but also good for that life you chose to bring into the world. If you can't deal with this, you should probably consider before bringing a life into the world. Duh! I get as a society we've moved away from the notion that our child's needs and happiness are more important than our own. I don't like it, but I get it. What makes me sad is that we seem to be moving toward a notion that our child's happiness and needs aren't even as important as our own, not even close. And if that's not bad enough, we're reducing it to words in books meant for them. We are sending a very bad message.